Relationship Agreements
Last night, I was irritated. I wanted to bring my irritation to the page and talk about how we create villains out of the friends and loved ones in our lives by continuing to see and act through the filter of our old wounds. I was angry that I still have friends who still engage in this kind of activity, and I wasn’t feeling much compassion about it at all. This morning, I’m a little more balanced and able to act from my more compassionate heart, and I’m also well-rested and more inclined to talk about the solution rather than the problem.
Recently, I saw a meme that said (and I’m paraphrasing), heal your wounds, so that you stop seeing through their filter. I stood up and clapped — gave a standing ovation to whoever came up with the meme. And… I recognize that the meme jumps right to the end and doesn’t cover the middle piece. Healing and getting conscious can be a really long process for us humans. How do I, BEFORE I’ve healed those wounds and in the process of doing so, stop damaging myself and my relationships. How do I keep from blowing up my world, stay connected, and protect my communities from the bloody, dirty, grit of my humanity and old patterns of self-preservation?
I am a lucky Human. I roll with other humans doing Shadow work on a very regular basis. We are often, together and as…
